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I hear you. Having a healthy dose of self love to juice up your work ethic and propel yourself into success is probably a very healthy thing we wouldn’t want the world to do without. But I think I still might want my son and daughter to score close to a zero on the scale. The reason isn’t because I don’t want them to have confidence and assertiveness, but because I don’t want them to lack empathy or indulge in envy - the two aspects of narcissism that make all that confidence kind of gross and unearned. If you can’t treat people decently while you are using them as stepping stones to climb the mountain of self aggrandizement, then you’re still just a self absorbed POS. We live in a community and I want my children to lift as they rise and do it with dignity and respect. Btw I scored a 12 on the NPI. Guess I’m alright 😅

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I completely agree with that sentiment. I do have these interesting conversations with my kids. Help those who need it. Stand up to the tyranny of crowds. Be capable of loving and being loved. But you can’t stop for every motorist on the side of the road or you’ll get nowhere.

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Aug 2Liked by Todd Kashdan

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See you there!

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