Love this piece and this idea, Todd: “A Day in the Life of an Emotional Altruist. Imagine a day where you focus solely on helping others manage their emotions. How might this change your interactions?”
In that vein, where might we find some of the most concise writing on how to become more of an emotional altruist? Ways best to respond, react, sooth, comfort, etc. that may be more likely to help other manage their experiences, emotions, reactions...?
Emotional labour is very energy taxing though, even as you get rewards for it. Main caregivers and service workers can attest to that.
The depth of our own emotional regulation has a big effect in its efficiency and efficacy. Deep acting versus surface acting are perceived differently.
At the same time, there are people who experience significant dissonance when surface acting...and others who don’t. There are clear gender differences in this too.
I went into a rabbit hole last year researching this. Maybe I should publish an article about it.
We are created for being inter-dependent after a long period of being dependent.
The chase towards independence takes more than it gives.
Unfortunately.
Well said. Love the developmental angle.
Love this piece and this idea, Todd: “A Day in the Life of an Emotional Altruist. Imagine a day where you focus solely on helping others manage their emotions. How might this change your interactions?”
In that vein, where might we find some of the most concise writing on how to become more of an emotional altruist? Ways best to respond, react, sooth, comfort, etc. that may be more likely to help other manage their experiences, emotions, reactions...?
Thank you ! I’m on it!
Woohoo!!!!!!
Emotional labour is very energy taxing though, even as you get rewards for it. Main caregivers and service workers can attest to that.
The depth of our own emotional regulation has a big effect in its efficiency and efficacy. Deep acting versus surface acting are perceived differently.
At the same time, there are people who experience significant dissonance when surface acting...and others who don’t. There are clear gender differences in this too.
I went into a rabbit hole last year researching this. Maybe I should publish an article about it.
Would absolutely love to read anything you publish along these lines!