I just read "Look Again" by Tali Sharot and Cass Sunstein. It's about habituation, how we gradually get used to something, and whether it's possible to dishabituate.
""Is it possible to see what now feels ordinary in a new way and recreate the feelings that were once there? Can we rediscover the joy that was once present at work, feel the excitement in a relationship, or the drive at the gym?
I associate this with what you write about getting bored in a relationship and whether it is possible to make it more exciting again.
How I love Cass Sunstein's contributions - or at least most of them.
Peder, it's a great question and I'd love to hear what you and others have done to make this happen.
During COVID, for example, after over 30 years of working out, I experienced something completely new by switching to resistance bands with insufficient dumbbells available. It supercharged me. I'm still watching videos weekly on new ways to be stronger and agile without those joint and bone and vascular problems that often occur with free weights. Sing along to a Disney variant of its a whole new world.
Thanks for pushing me further on this topic. I really do think its a key to better relationship therapy.
One perspective I find intriguing is the association of taking a pause with the need to address something 'bad'(physically tired, bored, mentally exhausted, etc) —a notion that seems ingrained in our minds. In this book, there is an argument that we may also need breaks from what is good, enjoyable, or fun. Such pauses can create a sense of deshabituation, making activities feel exciting again.
The gym might serve as a valuable place to explore this concept. I have found it very useful and enjoyable to alternate between different 10-week programs. Although I found the "heavy lifting program" the most enjoyable, I now recognize the benefits of systematically taking breaks from it. While my body is recovering, I eagerly anticipate returning to the program. This approach has also made me stronger in the long term, proving it's not a loss in any aspect.
It’s funny how rarely you see this view expressed. You should write about it. I’ve heard one other bodybuilder talk about this. He’d take one month off a year. I should probably adopt this approach for eating meats, etc.
Looking forward to listening to this. Great!
I just read "Look Again" by Tali Sharot and Cass Sunstein. It's about habituation, how we gradually get used to something, and whether it's possible to dishabituate.
""Is it possible to see what now feels ordinary in a new way and recreate the feelings that were once there? Can we rediscover the joy that was once present at work, feel the excitement in a relationship, or the drive at the gym?
I associate this with what you write about getting bored in a relationship and whether it is possible to make it more exciting again.
Thanks Todd,
How I love Cass Sunstein's contributions - or at least most of them.
Peder, it's a great question and I'd love to hear what you and others have done to make this happen.
During COVID, for example, after over 30 years of working out, I experienced something completely new by switching to resistance bands with insufficient dumbbells available. It supercharged me. I'm still watching videos weekly on new ways to be stronger and agile without those joint and bone and vascular problems that often occur with free weights. Sing along to a Disney variant of its a whole new world.
Thanks for pushing me further on this topic. I really do think its a key to better relationship therapy.
One perspective I find intriguing is the association of taking a pause with the need to address something 'bad'(physically tired, bored, mentally exhausted, etc) —a notion that seems ingrained in our minds. In this book, there is an argument that we may also need breaks from what is good, enjoyable, or fun. Such pauses can create a sense of deshabituation, making activities feel exciting again.
The gym might serve as a valuable place to explore this concept. I have found it very useful and enjoyable to alternate between different 10-week programs. Although I found the "heavy lifting program" the most enjoyable, I now recognize the benefits of systematically taking breaks from it. While my body is recovering, I eagerly anticipate returning to the program. This approach has also made me stronger in the long term, proving it's not a loss in any aspect.
It’s funny how rarely you see this view expressed. You should write about it. I’ve heard one other bodybuilder talk about this. He’d take one month off a year. I should probably adopt this approach for eating meats, etc.