My Interview with Jim Coan on Love and Curiosity
I thought I lost this wide-ranging interview with the sweetest soul in psychology, Dr. Jim Coan (this is my favorite research of his - link). Our podcast episode was for a non-profit company with the mission of disseminating the best relationship science in hopes of reducing loneliness and enhancing interpersonal virtues: compassion, social intelligence, and the capacity to love and be loved. Unfortunately, the company folded. Here’s hoping another set of experts enters this ripe market, sharing what works best for people with particular backgrounds, personalities, and motivations.
This is a deep dive into how curiosity operates in relationships - the mechanism that maintains passion. Enjoy!
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Do You Have Good or Great Friendships?
This is part of an ongoing series of articles on friendship including (1) how to break up with friends, (2) friendship lessons from rats, and (3) why we lose touch with friends and what to do about it. As I stand on the brink of my 50th birthday, I reflect on friendships I’ve forged over the decades, especially who is in my circle now.
Looking forward to listening to this. Great!
I just read "Look Again" by Tali Sharot and Cass Sunstein. It's about habituation, how we gradually get used to something, and whether it's possible to dishabituate.
""Is it possible to see what now feels ordinary in a new way and recreate the feelings that were once there? Can we rediscover the joy that was once present at work, feel the excitement in a relationship, or the drive at the gym?
I associate this with what you write about getting bored in a relationship and whether it is possible to make it more exciting again.
Thanks Todd,