I like Sci Fi, I mostly read (past tense) Sci Fi. But if I stuck with that, I wouldn't have discovered how much I like Agatha Christie, or Ishiguro (my gateway drug), discovered magical realism, fallen in love with Jane Eyre, wondered why anyone would ever want to kill Salman Rushdie. Now I can write sci Fi that isn't just about sci Fi, or fantasy that isn't just a dissertation on this cool magic system I invented 🤮.
Besides, I don't get along with people like me anyways.
I would add that the 48 percenters also give us the potential for greater insight regarding our “dark side.” They will help us develop a more effective emotional repertoire.
I love the 48 percent that are different from me! I rub the 52 percent the wrong way because I challenge their thinking. How boring would it be to have a partner mirror you. IT would be so vanilla.......yawn.
I'll admit I was really skeptical of Tyler's perspective but after reading it, I was not moved at all. In fact, I was probably moved in the opposite direction setting up your article perfectly. I felt sorry for those who think that these remote relationships with like-minded people are superior to any alternative. I don't pity them. I think life is so much more than feeling comfortable and those who seek more of the same (comfort) lose out on growth opportunities. Do they recognize their losses? Probably not. The discomforts in life make us more human, more humane, and more thoughtful. We learn as we grow but growing can be hard without external forces that nudge us to seek other ideas, skills, or passions.
I had lunch with one of my best friends yesterday. We talk about everything and I mean everything. And we don’t tell anyone else. We grew up extremely differently, though she’s from New Jersey and I’m from Delaware. Night and day. Both of us been through our own heaven and our own hell but totally different hell. She mentioned yesterday that I sounded short about something. This led to a conversation about self-esteem and how if I couldn’t explain myself the way I want to trying to get my message across, I get frustrated and my voice gets short as if I’m angry. I’m so glad she brought that up because it’s totally true. I don’t mean to sound that way, but it comes off that way. She reminded me assertively and kindly that I continue to need to grow in my life to be more flexible and tolerant for myself not just for her. But if she hadn’t brought it up, I wouldn’t have known. Damn I love her.
I have to say, it sounds like you defined "perfect people for me" as including people with whom you might have big differences in various opinion to which I agree completely. But, surely there's a level of, well, let's call it intelligence, or maybe better, curiosity that would characterize people even in your 48%.
🙌🏽 My boss is one of those 48% for me. She describes me as ‘the glass is 3/4 full’ and I describe her as ‘the glass is 3/4 empty.’ She tends to see the worst in every situation and I tend to see the best. She helps me to see possible pitfalls I might not otherwise see and I help her to see successes and opportunities she might otherwise have missed. We are great together because our differences broaden our perspectives. Even our senses of humour are different but we have the best belly laughs.
Plus your Substack is like a 48% for me. It exposes me to interesting topics that sometimes lead me down a rabbit hole of self discovery as I try to unpack why I feel a certain type of way about something you’ve written or said.
It's like saying, "I only read Sci Fi."
I like Sci Fi, I mostly read (past tense) Sci Fi. But if I stuck with that, I wouldn't have discovered how much I like Agatha Christie, or Ishiguro (my gateway drug), discovered magical realism, fallen in love with Jane Eyre, wondered why anyone would ever want to kill Salman Rushdie. Now I can write sci Fi that isn't just about sci Fi, or fantasy that isn't just a dissertation on this cool magic system I invented 🤮.
Besides, I don't get along with people like me anyways.
Shit I love this. Ishiguro. I love his mind. Klara and the sub really moved me.
My favorite robot book 😉.
Todd, that was a great response!
I would add that the 48 percenters also give us the potential for greater insight regarding our “dark side.” They will help us develop a more effective emotional repertoire.
I love the 48 percent that are different from me! I rub the 52 percent the wrong way because I challenge their thinking. How boring would it be to have a partner mirror you. IT would be so vanilla.......yawn.
I'll admit I was really skeptical of Tyler's perspective but after reading it, I was not moved at all. In fact, I was probably moved in the opposite direction setting up your article perfectly. I felt sorry for those who think that these remote relationships with like-minded people are superior to any alternative. I don't pity them. I think life is so much more than feeling comfortable and those who seek more of the same (comfort) lose out on growth opportunities. Do they recognize their losses? Probably not. The discomforts in life make us more human, more humane, and more thoughtful. We learn as we grow but growing can be hard without external forces that nudge us to seek other ideas, skills, or passions.
Great post Todd.
I had lunch with one of my best friends yesterday. We talk about everything and I mean everything. And we don’t tell anyone else. We grew up extremely differently, though she’s from New Jersey and I’m from Delaware. Night and day. Both of us been through our own heaven and our own hell but totally different hell. She mentioned yesterday that I sounded short about something. This led to a conversation about self-esteem and how if I couldn’t explain myself the way I want to trying to get my message across, I get frustrated and my voice gets short as if I’m angry. I’m so glad she brought that up because it’s totally true. I don’t mean to sound that way, but it comes off that way. She reminded me assertively and kindly that I continue to need to grow in my life to be more flexible and tolerant for myself not just for her. But if she hadn’t brought it up, I wouldn’t have known. Damn I love her.
I have to say, it sounds like you defined "perfect people for me" as including people with whom you might have big differences in various opinion to which I agree completely. But, surely there's a level of, well, let's call it intelligence, or maybe better, curiosity that would characterize people even in your 48%.
“Friends who force translation” landed with a boom.
Isn’t it fun to learn new languages this way?
🙌🏽 My boss is one of those 48% for me. She describes me as ‘the glass is 3/4 full’ and I describe her as ‘the glass is 3/4 empty.’ She tends to see the worst in every situation and I tend to see the best. She helps me to see possible pitfalls I might not otherwise see and I help her to see successes and opportunities she might otherwise have missed. We are great together because our differences broaden our perspectives. Even our senses of humour are different but we have the best belly laughs.
Plus your Substack is like a 48% for me. It exposes me to interesting topics that sometimes lead me down a rabbit hole of self discovery as I try to unpack why I feel a certain type of way about something you’ve written or said.