6 Lessons from Working in a Pornography Store at Age 13

"Street Life" Psychology Lessons

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My twin brother and I worked at a pornography store at a very young age. Looking back, it had a major effect on me. While I would never want my kids doing the same, I wouldn’t change the past because I treasure who I’ve become. That butterfly effect¹ gnaws at me.

very accurate depiction

It’s strange to hire a pair of 13-year-old twins to sell adult movies and "toys" to customers. Reflecting on it now, I can't help but think this unconventional experience would have added an interesting twist to my college application essay…

Lesson 1: