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Todd Kashdan's avatar

Great point Rebecca. I probably should have fleshed out the opening story with my kids about how I asked them a ton of open-ended questions. What happened recently that makes you think that? What is your mind saying to you regularly? How long does it last before there's a switch and you find yourself acting in ways you like? Etc.

Thanks for a missing, essential piece.

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Todd, I appreciate that you are pointing out the pitfalls of diagnosis by non-qualified others; however, it seems that you are dismissing very valid questions that one may have about themselves. Rather than shutting down people’s curiosity (especially young peoples curiosity) and shepherding them straight to an expert who will TELL them exactly what to think, how about ENQUIRING around what they do think, why they think that, what their experience is, how they’re making sense of their identity and what this exploration means to them. I appreciate the place of concern that your article is coming from but I think you may be taking an overly controlling approach to solving it.

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