When You’re Arguing About Pronouns, You’re Really Arguing About the Fear of Being Humiliated in Public
One Powerful Psychological Tool to Define the Right Fight as the Way Out
We don’t argue to understand. We argue to win. To build an invisible moat between us and the morons who don’t “get it.”
And yet most of the time, we’re not even fighting about the thing we think we’re fighting about.
We’re arguing about climate policy, or abortion, or gender-neutral bathrooms, and all the while, we’re blindfolded in a psychological boxing ring, swinging at each other’s content while ignoring the values bubbling below the beltline.
This article is about stepping out of that ring to figure out which fight is worth having. Consider this psychological defensive driving in an age of identity-fueled shouting matches…